Two events inspire this week’s blog. The passing of my father and my current obsession with the movie Bohemian Rhapsody. Strangely enough, my father passed away on the same day as Freddie Mercury’s death date (24 November). My father was an eccentric and charismatic man so it does not come as such a surprise.

My father was my spiritual teacher- I am who I am today because of the knowledge he passed down to me and the lessons I learned as a result of our soul contract. My father knew how to live life on his terms and blazed a trail wherever he went. He taught me to look deeply into life and into myself. To question reality and see the world through a higher wisdom.

There is a line in the movie Bohemian Rhapsody, where Freddie Mercury is being asked about his eccentric personal lifestyle choices. He is asked to explain the people he chooses to surround himself with. He explains that his life, the partying, the sex, the people help him fill the in-between moments. He says that when he leaves the stage and comes down off the high of performing “darkness you thought you had left behind comes creeping back in.” He goes onto to say that “being human is a condition that requires a little anaesthesia.”

I found the concept of our ‘in-between moments’ so profound that I had to go back and see the movie a second time. And it got me thinking…

What do we do with our in-between moments?

When the world and the busyness surrounding us goes quiet, when we are alone with our thoughts and energy, in those tiny gaps between experiences… what do we do with those moments? How do we fill the void? Do we fill it with light? Do we fill it with addictions? Do we fill it with self-pity? With joy? In those microseconds of choice, what do we do with our time and energy? Who do we let in? What thoughts do we focus on?

The choices we make in those ‘in-between moments’ define our current reality. They can keep us uplifted or they can bring us crashing down. When we fill that space with light, we remain connected to our self and our truth. When we let the nagging feeling of loneliness or emptiness speak, we sabotage ourselves. One decision leads to personal growth, another creates a detour.

How can we recognise the in-between moments?

The first step is to notice the void. With self-awareness, we feel the emptiness and can be aware of the gap of time and space. Without awareness, we run on auto-pilot and make choices lacking intention and focus.

Once you are aware of your ‘in-between moment’ you can decide how you want to fill it. You can breathe into that space with self-love. You can fill it with light and you can make a choice to remain congruent with your values and virtues. And every time you do, not only do you grow, but you also heal. You become whole again. The void shrinks and your light expands.

So the next time you feel lost in unresourceful habits or choices, STOP and notice the space. Breathe the light of your highest self into that space. Remove yourself from anything that can potentially reduce your light. Relax your body so that you can feel inspiration and guidance from your soul and make a decision that is alignment with your authentic self- towards truth and freedom.